Finding a better way.

We just couldn't believe the difference between how good it could be when it was good, and . . . the rest of the time.

So, we figured out how to make things better. We read the books, went to therapy, did the work. It was hard, expensive, and long, but we committed ourselves to new ways of thinking and practices that made things better.

Then we decided to share what we have so far (but just the best stuff, without all the waste, fluff and expense) to help other couples get there faster, cheaper, and with less work.

For the kids.
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What we know is that our kids are going to get our way of relating as their default. If we get good at it, they will get to start their lives knowing how to be good at loving someone.

They will be better at the number one thing contributing to their life satisfaction.

And that's great, but it's our lives, too.

And for us.
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We could live reactively, wallowing in the hard parts, but that sucks.

We would rather keep learning to live our relationship joyfully, building and maintaining the feeling that the person we've chosen to be with is on our team, growing with us, and on the same page.

Come play. Come learn.